You and I, and just about everyone else, have to have that first date. It can be terrifying stuff, but it is all part of the process. Unless you employ the services of a professional, you are going to have to go on a few dates to get to know someone. These are five things you can do to make your date a successful one.
We may chat for a few minutes and converse about some subject medium that both you and him will find interesting. This is the easy part.
The next stage is that you start to get to know each other. You ask questions about him in order to see if you have anything in common. This is not the be all and end all of dating, but it is an important step. Also, if you find out that you have something in common with him, that can give you a springboard to continue to talk and learn more about each other.
When you go out with someone, it’s important to look good. Don’t wear something too tight, but wear something that is pretty in a classy way. killers graceful look is to wear pointy earrings. They make you look points.
Also, make sure you put on a little makeup. Start out with lipstick, then eye shadow and then mascara will step in next.
Also, make sure you don’t act as though you are out on the date just to get under his skin. If you do this, you will scare him off. Remember that he doesn’t know you from Joe. You are a real person, just meeting him. So relax, have fun, and show him a good time.
By doing the above, you are letting him know you are a fun person, and nice to look at, yet you have some restraint and reservations holding you back. He will respect you for this.
This is stage three. In this stage, you are taking control of your own life. You are living your own life, doing your own things, and making your own decisions. You may not agree with some of his, but you are having a equality union, meaning, you are both equal partners in your relationship.
Also, remember that in this stage, you don’t need him for everything. You do this because you want to maintain a relationship, a mutual relationship with him, rather than being his little verboten little girl. He is not your father, guard and stepmother. Do not treat him like that.
By stage three, you are more open, more social, more adventurous, and just having fun. You are taking your life into your own hands and making decisions, without him having to give you an ultimatum.
Even though you are still an independent person, stage three is a huge step for turning you from an independent single to a couple. It’s time to say “Yes” to being in a committed relationship.
At this stage, you are ready to take your relationship to the next level by creating your wedding, your home, and your personal boundaries and lifestyle. You are taking responsibility over your own happiness by making your own decisions and live your own life. Remember to create more balance by taking a little less time off between your engagements and going out two nights a week on the town (or one night a week if you prefer).
Have you ever been with a couple that couldn’t agree about something and eventually it led to a lot of fights and eventually they couldn’t agree about anything? You can create the same kind of problems if you can’t agree about anything. If you love him, it will show when you do the following:
Have a different agenda.
When you have different thoughts or opinions, do not put them down. Say them out loud. If you are passionate about something, hold on to those thoughts and feelings no matter what he thinks or says. If you 100% believe you, then it doesn’t matter what he says or does. Practice makes perfect. And, don’t be so quick to judge. Yes, that’s right, just because you have different opinions, doesn’t mean he is right, wrong, or has motives. Give him a chance. Let him speak and make your point known but do not be manipulative about it.
Having different opinions does not mean you cannot compromise. What is different is you have to be open minded about it and not be selective. You are not supposed to do everything he wants. Although you love doing things with him, you also have to ask yourself whether it’s truly worth it.
Have your own guard up.
Make no unplanned accusations. This will give him a surprise he will not expect. We have all heard the saying” it’s better to dance on your own.” You dance by yourself, not around him. This way, he gets the chance to